In the last post, I gave a verse in the Bible written by Paul in Ephesians 5:22, 28-31. "Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church; and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it . . . So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church . . . For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shal1 be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh".
Paul writes here that "the husband is head of the wife". Okay, many people are going to have issues with this statement, but, for one, being the head of someone, is not the only important part of a marriage. And secondly, it is an important responsibility, which actually in tales a lot for the man to do. Thirdly, and simply, this is what women naturally look for.
Yes, men are suppose to be the head of the wife, but the head cannot do it on its own. It needs arms, legs, and torso to be complete. This is what Paul writes about later when he says, "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shal1 be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh". This is becoming one flesh not just in the physical sense, although that is true, but more importantly, in emotional and spiritual sense.
But what are women's roles in the relationship?
Genesis 2:16 says, "And the Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him'". When the word helper is used, God is meaning women. Even as man had everything he needed, and even walked with God, God thought he needed something more. Now, the word "helper" looks like a less important role, insignificant, and even lower than a man's role, but where in the Bible does it write that this is a less important job? No where, the Bible is clear that both men and women are created in the image of God, and both are important, but have separate and different roles.
Secondly, this statement, while seeming to give men a lot of power, is actually an important responsibility. Yes, Paul writes that men are the head, but what does this mean? Does it mean, we boss around, have our own way, and get what we can? No, Paul writes, "Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it".
Wow! I do not know about you, but this part always strikes me hard!
"Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it".
These are huge footsteps to follow, Christ. Christ bared our sin on the cross and died for us, so in one sense, we should be willing to die for our wives. Also, Christ was the greatest servant ever. This means that men should also serve their wives and look to their needs. Also Christ was the ultimate Godly example because he was God! For men this means we should also be a Godly example. Get in the word of God and pray.
Lastly, this behavior is what women are looking for in a man. Women are looking for a man to take charge, be in control, and simply be a man! How do I know this? Well, ask women what they are looking for. Personally, I have asked women for what qualities they are looking in a man, even if the women is feminist, they will give say a strong (not necessarily physically) man who will take charge and not be a wimp.
Men, if you are looking to date a Christian women, grow up, it on your game, because that is what a women of God truly deserves, and what God wants.
Remember, God does not want you to follow him some of the times, but he wants your heart, and God wants you to trust him with your life.
